Food for thought
Friday, 6 June 2008 15:38![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
fatrockstarThis was in the paper today, written by an advice columnist I'm not particularly fond of. The dilemma she's responding to is not relevant, but this chunk resonated with me:
When the main reason you get along is that you avoid talking about anything substantial, it follows that a mere whiff of substance will have the power to destabilize the relationships.
Many extended-family situations, unfortunately, survive on these fragile detentes. But marriages die from them, if not from the fighting, then from the loneliness of being so guarded.
And I can't think of any more substantial matters for a couple to talk about than what they hope for, where they hope to be, and where they stand with their families.
I think my divorce is final on Monday. I got that impression from an email I received from the moderator a while back. Garret has not contacted me to confirm this.
When the main reason you get along is that you avoid talking about anything substantial, it follows that a mere whiff of substance will have the power to destabilize the relationships.
Many extended-family situations, unfortunately, survive on these fragile detentes. But marriages die from them, if not from the fighting, then from the loneliness of being so guarded.
And I can't think of any more substantial matters for a couple to talk about than what they hope for, where they hope to be, and where they stand with their families.
I think my divorce is final on Monday. I got that impression from an email I received from the moderator a while back. Garret has not contacted me to confirm this.
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6/6/08 23:21 (UTC)