fatrockstar

What is "type" and how does it fit into the grand scope of things? Does it pertain to personality, looks, or both? When do you use "he's not my type" to describe your disinterest, and how important is it?

When I am browsing a crowd looking at men, I am comparing them to a "type" in my head. I like a certain body type, a certain face type, a certain coloring... I am attracted to someone that looks a certain way. This is normal for anyone, I'm sure. However, I can only think of two men in my past that have actually met the criteria I define as my "type" physically. Most of them appealed to me on a different level -- one that had nothing to do with what they looked like. If I ever fell into bed with someone I didn't find appealing at first, the encounter still managed to be a positive one. There's more to sex than bodies.

The most unappealing man I ever fell into bed with was 6'4" and probably a good 300lbs. He did not carry his weight well. However, he was good with his hands, strong, and had a vivid imagination. It didn't hurt that his cock was fat, too. The relationship didn't last very long because he was fucking psycho, but it says something about sex and attraction that I slept with him more than once.

I bring this subject up because my experience tells me that looks aren't everything. If I stuck to only shagging men that were "my type" I'd never get any play. That, and when I've set aside the emphasis on appearance that modern society is so famous for I have been pleasantly surprised.

Of course, I'd love to date nothing but tall, dark, muscular men with deep sexy voices, but life doesn't work out that way. I've been around enough to know that playing against type isn't going to hurt me. I only wish there were enough men out there mature enough to think the same way.