New policy
Tuesday, 17 February 2004 15:29![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
fatrockstarAfter the last couple of months of stress and crap I have decided to make a huge shift in personal policy. From this point on I officially adopt a no-tolerance policy on lying.
With this comes a huge responsibility on my part. I am going to have to fight really hard not to assume the worst, if at all. I understand that some things are just none of my fucking business. For those things that ARE my business -- like the personal safety of myself, my family, and my friends -- expect me to take action, ask questions, and speak my mind. If you're afraid to tell me the truth because you know you won't like what I have to say I feel sorry for you. I find it hard to believe I inspire that kind of fear in people I care deeply about.
I used to be a liar. Then I met an even bigger liar and he made my life a living hell. Have you ever been cheated on? Remember that feeling in your gut you get when you find out about it? Well, unearthing his lies was like having that feeling 24/7 for about two months. All I could imagine was how differently I would have acted had I known the truth. I lost a lot of friends and respect during that time. It really turned my life around.
Granted, there is a time for less honesty and more delicacy, but I have found that when those times present themselves it is better to keep my mouth shut and practice my listening skills instead. You learn a lot from listening.
I am willing to forgive those who have lied to me recently through the end of this month. After that I make no guarantees. Every time someone lies to me I feel it. I don't think it's possible to get me to "buy it" anymore. I'm not stupid, but if you're lying to me you obviously think I am, so you might as well just come right out and say so. It will save both of us the pain and heartbreak.
With this comes a huge responsibility on my part. I am going to have to fight really hard not to assume the worst, if at all. I understand that some things are just none of my fucking business. For those things that ARE my business -- like the personal safety of myself, my family, and my friends -- expect me to take action, ask questions, and speak my mind. If you're afraid to tell me the truth because you know you won't like what I have to say I feel sorry for you. I find it hard to believe I inspire that kind of fear in people I care deeply about.
I used to be a liar. Then I met an even bigger liar and he made my life a living hell. Have you ever been cheated on? Remember that feeling in your gut you get when you find out about it? Well, unearthing his lies was like having that feeling 24/7 for about two months. All I could imagine was how differently I would have acted had I known the truth. I lost a lot of friends and respect during that time. It really turned my life around.
Granted, there is a time for less honesty and more delicacy, but I have found that when those times present themselves it is better to keep my mouth shut and practice my listening skills instead. You learn a lot from listening.
I am willing to forgive those who have lied to me recently through the end of this month. After that I make no guarantees. Every time someone lies to me I feel it. I don't think it's possible to get me to "buy it" anymore. I'm not stupid, but if you're lying to me you obviously think I am, so you might as well just come right out and say so. It will save both of us the pain and heartbreak.
